I
have a 5 foot 3 friend who was repeatedly raped by a 6 foot 7 man who told her
over and over that when he was done with her, he would kill her. Others
intervened and she was saved. The police detective who “saved” her then used
her as his sex slave. She became pregnant. She privately had an abortion. She
is a devout woman, and was in church the day her elderly, rosy-cheeked priest,
a man she adored, preached strongly against abortion. She said to him at the
door, “But women who need abortions will go to the back alleys if abortion is
illegal, and some will die.” “As well they should,” her beloved priest told
her. [I heard her tell this story in a public setting.]
I
thought about this when the Susan G. Komen Foundation [SGK] made the decision
to stop its funding for Planned Parenthood’s [PP] breast cancer program.
Supporters of PP said the defunding was a political decision because PP also
provides abortion services. When backlash caused SGK to put PP back into its
budget, people against PP said it was a political decision. It WAS a political
decision. Both times.
Komen
made the mistake of losing its central vision. Komen is about one thing, breast
cancer. When it began to look through the lens of abortion and politics and
fund raising and “investigations,” it lost its focus.
It
had pressures, of course. Folks who see only through one lens want everyone
else to look through that exclusive lens, too. “Pro-life” forces saw the chance
to defund PP abortion programs by getting SGK to stop funding PP’s breast cancer
programs. “Pro-choice” advocates pushed back.
Abortion
is an important issue. It needs to be debated and discussed. There are
appropriate venues for doing that. Breast cancer is not one of them.
“Now
that I have cancer…” that was the way I started every sentence after my 53rd
birthday, because everything was different. Cancer was the hinge that closed
the door on my former life and opened a door into a very scary future. Cancer
gave me a new lens for looking at life, and that new lens gave me a chance to
get back into myself, to see myself whole, to recapture my central vision.
People
who look through a single lens see everything through that lens. That is okay.
That may be their central vision. But because I look at life through a specific
lens doesn’t mean you have to.
Not
everything can best be viewed through the lens of abortion rights, or gun
rights, or gay rights. Not everything is about taxes or national security.
I’m
a cancer survivor. I’m the father and brother-in-law of breast cancer
survivors. I’m the son and brother of cancer victims. I’m the brother and
grandfather and husband of cancer survivors. I don’t want the vision of folks
whose primary mission, who look through the lens of cancer cure, to have their
vision distorted. But that does not need to be the vision lens for everyone.
Sen.
John Kyl famously stated on the Senate floor that abortion “…is well over 90%
of what Planned Parenthood does.” PP says abortion is about 3% of its services.
Independent estimates put it at between 3 and 10%. Kyl later said his statement
“…was not meant to be factual.”
When
Donald Trump weighed in on abortion while a presidential candidate, he was
excoriated for being unprepared. He said that women who get abortions should be
punished. The pro-birth forces have always said publicly that the goal is to
make abortion criminal, to criminalize only abortion providers, not abortion
recipients, while fully intending to get to the point that abortion recipients
would be criminalized, too. The Donald did not understand that political forces
don’t want some goals revealed publicly.
Which
lens you use makes all the difference. Pro-birth folks start by saying abortion
is murder. Pro-choice folk start by saying women have a right to control their
own bodies. Theologically, if you start with the power of
God,
you get predestination. If you start with the love of God, you get
grace.
When
Christians consider a matter such as abortion, it is important to look through
the central lens—God—and not through some more narrow, secondary lens stuck in
front of our eyes by some political force.
JRMcF
johnrobertmcfarland@gmail.com
I’m
not at all satisfied with this little essay. I have not said what needs to be
said very clearly at all, but it’s the best I can do. Sorry.
I
tweet as yooper1721.
My
book, NOW THAT I HAVE CANCER I AM WHOLE:
Reflections on Life and Healing for Cancer Patients and Those Who Love Them is
published by AndrewsMcmeel. It is available in paperback, ebook, audio, Czech,
and Japanese.